You always hear Mom is the glue that holds a family together. Well, if that’s true, then Dad is the electrical tape.
I don’t remember the exact story behind how we got into this conversation (thanks mom brain). However, Sam brought up beginning to travel for work towards the end of the school year last year. I was 7 months pregnant with our second baby and trying to navigate my masters program, school, pregnancy, and life in general. It wasn’t going to be far, thankfully, it was only an hour drive each way. But, in doing so, it would nearly double his weekly income. So, it was a no-brainer.
We had moved into our house in March 2024 after going through a bunch of craziness with our previous living arrangements (and believe me, you’ll hear all about it). We are blessed that Sam’s parents are our landlords as we figure out what our plans were. We weren’t going to leave the city, however, that was something on our minds. (RV life maybe??)
After much thought on Sam’s part, he decided that he was going to find a way to get us out of debt, save a lot of money, and eventually, put a downpayment on a house. Whether it was going to be this house, or another house, that was still up in the air.
After a long beginning of him working away from our home local, he came home one night and told me he had been thinking about something for a while. He wanted to move away from the city. I was shocked! He, for nearly our entire relationship, said he would NEVER move out of our city. Our families are here, our friends are here, our lives are HERE.
He wanted a house with some acreage (over 20 to be exact) where we can camp and raise chickens. And he wanted to be more central to the 3 northern locals where he would have more access to these job sites and more money without driving 2 hours one direction like he does now.
While having that conversation, he mentioned, oh so casually, that he wants me to stay home with our babies and homeschool them.
My jaw was on the FLOOR! He was raised in a house where his mom & dad both worked so for him, that was normal and I was fully prepared to work the rest of my life. I was raised in a house where my mom stayed home with us until my brother was in preschool, then, she went back to work. I want to be a stay at home mom more than I’ve wanted anything and the fact that my husband is going to make that a reality by sacrificing living close to our families and being home at 3pm, just makes me so proud. All I want to do is boast about how incredible Sam is. And that’s exactly what I am going to do.